Foreplay: What is it and why you need it 

 | Written 20th August 2023  I  7 minute read | 

 



When it comes to talking about sexual experiences, sexual intercourse is usually at the very top of the list and foreplay often gets overlooked. 

A lot of people don't know that foreplay actually helps bring you closer to a partner and put you in the mood for sex.

There is no such thing as perfect foreplay or sex, and it's not up to you or your partner(s) to make it happen. So, here's why foreplay is great to not only enhance your sex life but your relationship as well.



What is foreplay?

Foreplay is basically any sexual activity that happens before sexual intercourse.

To put it short, it's the calm before the storm but minus the calm.

Typically foreplay helps build sexual tension by using emotional or physical intimate activities like mutual masturbation, talking dirty, playing naughty games or sexting (and there’s plenty more where that came from).

It's different for every person and the best way to find out what works for you is by researching more about it, trying it out or talking about it with your partner(s).



The best foreplay is through the mind

Your number one objective should be making your partner feel relaxed and comfortable enough so that everyone can enjoy the moment. The key to foreplay is the build-up and anticipation. 

By taking it slow you can pay attention to your partner's body language and the sounds that they make. It is much easier to let your partner know what feels nice and what doesn't by using body language and sounds than it is by using words in the moment. 

BUT that is not to say that you shouldn't say something, say it by all means if you have to!

If you're in bed, chat, laugh, touch each other lightly and explore each other’s bodies with your hands, mouth or both! 

You can also ask questions!

Don't expect anything and just focus on the moment. 

Foreplay ideas



1. Massage

Why not learn some basic massage techniques online by watching YouTube videos or browsing TikTok?

Have a good massage oil or lubricant handy (buy yours here) as lubrication is essential in this case.

Avoid the erogenous zones at first - you are building trust, relaxing muscles, and learning how your partner likes to be touched. Listen to their noises (pain, moaning), and breathing and feel their muscles relax or tighten.


2. Play a game

Buy a board game online or make up your own game using Jenga blocks and write kinky activities on each block! 



3. Talk dirty

There's nothing wrong with saying a few dirty things here and there to set you in the mood. You can even try role-playing and use different words that you don't normally use in your day-to-day life. 

Make sure to talk about what words you want and don’t want to use with your partner(s) first!



4. Shower together

Hop into a shower together and let the good times flow. What starts in the shower doesn’t have to end there, go back to bed and continue with what you started.


5. Buy a couples toy set

If you haven’t tried couples toys before then you are in for a treat! We have a huge range of couple's toy sets available here. 


Remember: foreplay is only a suggestion to enhance your sexual experiences and not a must!


These activities don't necessarily just happen before sex, they still happen during and after sex so don't limit yourself and your partner(s) to only doing it before you engage in sex! Explore your interests first and see what suits you!

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